Not all who wander are lost…

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Yeah, Yeah. I know. I know. This is such a cliché quote that is entirely overused. You can find it almost anywhere; on bumper stickers, posters, even tattoos. I used to see that quote and think, “that’s nice” or that it was a cool idea, but after reading Noelle Hancock’s post in the Cosmopolitan Lifestyle section my entire view of this quote changed. Noelle Hancock lived in New York with a job that paid $95,000 a year, but based off of her never-ending feeling that she needed a vacation she decided to ditch it all to scoop ice cream in the Caribbean and practically share her apartment with the wildlife living nearby. Most would find this insane but to her she was unhappy and needed a simpler lifestyle .

This story changed my entire view of what this quote meant. It wasn’t just a quote that I thought was nice anymore. It was a quote that resonated with my soul. That might sound silly to you since her post says she often wakes up with wild animals just chill’n in her bathroom, but to me it is a beautiful thing. I’ve always been the one of my friends who wanted to live in many places, and meet new people. I’ve been the one who knew choosing one major and one place to live was not what I envisioned for my life. I saw everyone around me with a passion for their major and an idea about what they wanted to do in life, yet I couldn’t figure out just one major to settle for. Within my first year of college I had changed my major about 5 or 6 times. I had gone in complete circles and practically to the other side of the universe with my major choice. I’ve talked to countless people who have made me fall in love with new majors, helped me envision myself doing some sort of line of work, and helped me (what I was convinced of then) carve in stone my major. Yet, Noelle’s post somehow has given me reassurance to throw all of that advice out the window and to not settle for a job with security, this is because it helped me realize I might be more like Noelle than I am my friends, and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

Its unsettling for me to think that I might someday have only one job or one town I call home, just as it might be unsettling for you to envision a life of moving around and inconsistency of your job title. Many people are different, and I guess this is my 2 cents worth of advice that I hope people take to heart; Not all people are the same. They have different hopes, different dreams, and envision different things for their life. SO before you tell them they are crazy to think it might work out, remember what hopes and dreams you might have had in the past. Remember how happy you felt if you met those dreams. Then hold back whatever negative thoughts you were going to say and replace them with support, because every negative comment you make about the dream they have is another chip away at their hope and drive to make that dream happen. You have no idea how happy they would be if that dream came true, or if it helps, think about how unhappy they might end up being if they actually do throw away their dream to do whatever you might be saying is the best, most “secure” choice for them.

I often imagine our comfort zones as being an invisible marked line only you can see, and that on the other side of the line is everything you have always wanted to try or do. With this in mind, I think about how crazy it is that someone who changes your life might only be met if you work up enough courage to cross that line and expand your comfort zone. This person might be the love of your life or the person who inspires you to change how you view life, but where you meet them might be a town away or thousands of miles away. Though might I be right, you will never know until you take that leap of faith to go into that coffee shop everyone talks about or to take the internship across the country. So much exists where you have never been, and in things you have never experienced. Also, who knows maybe someone is waiting for you to change their life. You could be the one person who inspires someone in a way no one else has been able to do, and what if someone is needing you to save their life with your kind words.

On the note of kindness; I, Karly La Mar, believe it is THE most important trait one can hold. Kindness opens up doors for so many amazing things. It could affect someone day or entire life. Meeting someone with such pure kindness pouring out of their heart is what changed my life and led me back to church again. You or I could do that for some one if we live our lives with pure kindness. Who wouldn’t want the opportunity to inspire?

So, get out there! Travel. Live life. Meet new people. And, Inspire others along the way.

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Random random thoughts.

Sometimes I question the statement “never judge a book by its cover”

Have you ever spent hours staring at a stranger. Well, not just staring, actually studying a stranger. If you answer yes to that, then you cannot also say that after those hours you studied him/her still had no idea who that person was.. If you haven’t studied a stranger before, then you need to try it.

Study them truly. Watch the way their eyes light up when they see a friend coming to visit them. Look at their cheeks blushing as they laugh. Discover what lies beneath their eyes: Is it a soul full of self-pity and hate? Or is it a soul full of happiness and light? Are their movements soft and smooth like bird in flight? Or do they move like the ocean waves, rigid and destructive? Or are they clumsy like something trying to walk for the first time? Are they quick to smile or frown about the little things? Which of those do they happen to do more? Smiling? Frowning? How do they greet a stranger?

People reveal what is on the inside without even knowing it. Even you do it.Thats why I love to just study people, especially happy people. Because you can learn so much without even a word being said. It is such a beautiful thing that even though people try to be everything society tells them to be their eyes reflect their soul, their facial muscles reveal their thoughts, and their movements reflect themselves and how they feel towards another person. “Masks” only cover so much. I love looking so deeply that the mask one might wear becomes invisible.

Deeply rooted.

“We are like the little branch that quivers during a storm, doubting our strength and forgetting we are the tree — deeply rooted to withstand all life’s upheavals.” >> Dodinsky

What an alluring statement that it. “We are deeply rooted to withstand all life’s upheavals.” When I read that my immediate response is ‘Well yeah we can go through anything with God as our roots’. Think about that. God makes us strong. When we ask him for help, he gives us hope, because hope is one of the most powerful emotions/feeling. Whether that be hope provided by someone around you, or a different way he seems to add it into your life, God always provides.

That quote is overly true. I have not met one single person who at once in their life did not doubt their abilities. We often forget that our dreams are worldly versions of what God can actually do. You may think your dream is out of reach or impossible, but God always has something planned for us much further than we could ever imagine. Its crazy how even at our lowest points God wants to be there to help us stand tall and not get pushed around by this corrupted world. No that does not mean that we wont fall, or fail, or have our dreams crumble before our eyes. His plan for you is great and maybe something completely opposite of what you had imagined, but it will be incredible and much more than you could have envisioned for yourself.

How crazy is it that we let such small things bring us down. Judgements, breakups, failed tests, being fired. They feel like the end of the world even though these are milestones that only affect our lives here on earth. Society teaches us to be upset, and grow attached to things like that, even when God calls us not to. Those types of items are not what changes our purpose; to glorify Him and show people unconditional love, and God gives us the strength to do so by being our roots and using our lives (if we allow him). Insane.

Cheers; To New Friends, and Unexpected Memories

Last night I was once again given the beautiful lesson that not everything needs to go the way you planned it to be amazing, all you need is wonderful people and good spirits to have an extraordinary night

“Pleasure to me is wonder—the unexplored, the unexpected, the thing that is hidden and the changeless thing that lurks behind superficial mutability. To trace the remote in the immediate; the eternal in the ephemeral; the past in the present; the infinite in the finite; these are to me the springs of delight and beauty.     – H.P. Lovecraft

So my hall had an event called GYRAD last night, which stands for “Get your roommate a date”. Every one was expected to meet up with their dates around 5:30, then find their way over to an Ice rink in a nearby town. Unexpectedly, as my group of about 10-15 friends were getting ready to leave, 2 out of the 3 cars we were going to take had car issues, both of their batteries died. BOTH of them! Although it wasn’t ideal that this happened, not a single person in our group became discouraged or mentioned canceling the entire night, rather my group made new plans!

Instead of going ice skating, we made a group decision to walk to Chick-fil-a, then see a movie! To most people this may sound extremely silly, but when you’re surrounded by warm spirited people the simplest of plans are still filled with fun and laughter. And thats exactly what happened! We laughed the entire night and made it a blast! We even ended up seeing Big Hero 6, a pixar movie, which might I add was amazing! Don’t let anyone say differently.

Let me tell you about my date; Taylor, my roommate, did something particularly thoughtful for me as she was picking out who my date would be. Instead of simply picking someone who she liked and thought I would hit it off with, she remembered a comment I made about a specific guy who reminded me of my two guy best friends back home, then she asked him to be my date! Thankfully he said yes because it was phenomenal to hangout with someone that reminded me of home, and hopefully to start becoming friends with this amazing guy! Honestly, I could not imagine having that much fun with anyone else other than him last night.

So cheers, to new friends, and unexpected memories. May many more come our way!

My view on integrity

“Integrity is a word many of us were not taught growing up. Yet it is the core of morality and justice – most of us did not need to define it with a word.” (Albert Einstein). The definition of integrity can easily be found in any dictionary: having a sound moral principle, sincerity, and honesty. However there’s more to integrity than just the definition, it can mainly only be defined by the actions of ones life.

Having a sound moral principle is greatly valued in our society. We search for friends and spouses that have this, we raise our children teaching them to have this characteristic. In our government we elect house of representatives and other officials in belief they have this characteristic of a sound moral principle. But is ones moral principle defined by themselves or others? I find it too often than not that ones moral principles are influenced by others, and fluctuate depending on those surrounding them. Would that be considered as having integrity? I believe “the surest test of an individuals integrity is his refusal to do or say anything that would damage his self-respect” (Thomas Monson). One with integrity does not diminish a belief in resultant of someone else, rather they improve the morals they already have to better their integrity.

In you have integrity, you are a sincere person. Ethnicity, looks, or differences are irrelevant to one who is sincere because judgement is hard to catch coming from ones lips, while acceptance is easily seen in ones actions. Sincerity is valuing others equally, not only when others are around but constantly because “real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not” (Oprah Winfrey). Some may argue the importance of sincerity even when others aren’t around, but their argument is invalid because how can one truly be sincere when others are around if it isn’t a high priority when they are alone. An example of integrity is putting someone in need before yourself without regard to self benefit. Someone with integrity would easily do that without second thought because that is the sincere thing to do. How is sincerity truly measured? In the amount of friends you have? The number of times you have chosen to put others before yourself? The number of times you have been honored for doing something nice? How can one exactly say the way sincerity should be measured, or if it can be measured at all. I believe sincerity isn’t the number of kind things you do, or friends you have. Rather sincerity is a mirror to the soul, and that is reflected in ones integrity.

To have integrity, one must first be a prime believer in honesty. Honesty is defined differently from person to person and though our definitions may vary, we all know the meaning of honesty in our hearts. And thats where honesty roots from, from our heart. Our heart is the only true arbitrator of what is true verses what is false. Integrity and honesty go hand in hand because “integrity is telling [ones self] the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” (Spencer Johnson). Both are important because they require the zeal of ones heart. To be dedicated to honesty is to have integrity in your life, since one cannot have integrity without the consistency of honesty.

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This was just a piece I wrote about my view on integrity for a scholarship I ended up winning! I hope y’all enjoyed it! 🙂